The Ultimate Rollercoaster

Posted On: Friday, August 13th, 2010 at 11:49 am

(I intended to post this last night, but I was just too drained to write it!)

I got an email from our agency about an hour after I emailed my adoption group “friends.”  The email was from our agency’s department, “Wonderful news! We are hopeful to receive a travel approval for your family in the coming days!… can you please confirm if you are able to leave for China around September 1st or 2nd?” It’s the pre-TA email! A week too late. The letter continues:

Please note that the U.S. Consulate has notified us that they are completely full through September 8th.   We are sincerely sorry that we cannot send you to China any earlier.

August 25th was not an option.  I felt so miserable reading that email, knowing that we couldn’t leave on September 1st, or the next week, or the next, or the next…  In fact, we wouldn’t be able to leave for 6 or 7 weeks.  Our TA was FINALLY in sight–and it hardly mattered.  I couldn’t hold back the tears.  I sat at the computer and sobbed.

Todd called about 10 minutes later, “Did you get the email?”  I answered, trying to pretend I wasn’t crying.  Then he started being silly and said, “I’m just not going to go to Wood Badge and we’ll travel on September 1st.”  Not funny.  And I let him know it wasn’t funny.  Then, in all sincerity, he said, “I’m not joking.”  What?!?  I don’t how they can have a Wood Badge course with an absentee course director, but he was serious!

My poor group of adoption friends got to ride this emotional rollercoaster with me yesterday.  Less than 2 hours after I sent that original sob story, I sent another email:

Thank you all for your kind words and support.  As promised, here is my “happy” email–sooner than I thought.

We got the “TA is on its way” email about 30 minutes ago!  I admit, I sobbed when I read the email, saying CAs were full and we would not be able to go in August.  But I just got off the phone with my best-in-the-whole-wide-world husband who has made the decision to skip out on this “unalterable” commitment he made 12 months ago to put our family first.  I can NOT believe he is doing this–still not sure how he will!  But I am completely shocked and surprised and overwhelmed!!!  I hardly know how to feel!

Thank you all again, my friends who have made this crazy ride so much more bearable.

I felt a little guilty for putting everyone on that same crazy rollercoaster!  But they were all so incredibly kind and supportive.  And it’s true.  I really do have the most amazing husband.  He said it took less than half a second to make that decision.  “It just wouldn’t be right.”

So, we are changing our plans a teensy bit, most likely leaving a week later than originally anticipated, but we are going!!!  I have been holding onto our last care package for 2 weeks, waiting to be able to send this news to Jiao Jiao.  I’ll be sending it today!  I can’t wait to tell her that we’re coming SOON!  One last happy thought before I close.  If travel goes as planned, our adoption day–the day Jiao Jiao is officially our daughter–will be September 7th.  Happy birthday to me!  What a gift! 🙂

P.S.  If there are any Wood Badge staff or participants reading this…don’t panic!  The course is still on! 🙂

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3 Responses to “The Ultimate Rollercoaster”

  1. I followed your whole story on the CCAIWCP group. So very excited for your unexpected September travel! So very, very excited for you! It’s always an adventure, isn’t it.

  2. melissa davis says:

    Hooray Jill and Todd!!

    May you have safe travels and warm hugs when you reach China! I can’t wait to hear all about Jiao Jiao!

  3. Karen says:

    I’m so excited for you. Praying that you have a blessed trip!!!!! Karen (ladybyng)

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