Archive for February, 2010

The “rest of the story”

Friday, February 19th, 2010

I was just rereading some of my first entries, and isn’t it just like me, I totally forgot to finish writing why we’re on this journey at all!  (See July 21 and 22, 2009 for the first part of our story.)  Where was I…

So I researched and cried for hours that night, finally went to bed when I couldn’t keep my eyes open any longer.  After  my initial research I realized that it wasn’t something we’d be able to do—too expensive, we’re not good enough parents as it is…etc.  I told Todd about the Petersons pictures in the morning.  His response was sarcastic.  “Are you saying we should adopt??” Me, “No, no, no.  Definitely not.”  Todd, “Good, because that just wouldn’t make any sense.”  Well, I tried to push it out of my mind for the next TWO WEEKS.  A day or two would go by, and I would research one more thing, look at a few more pictures, would mention something about it to Todd, get another “that’s crazy” kind of response, would promise myself (again) that  I wouldn’t read anything else about adoption.  And why not?  Because it WAS a crazy idea.

And then one day I was doing some housework and Kaylee Ann was telling me one of her stories.  (She does this often.)  I was only half-listening (bad mommy) until she said… “Mommy, see these dolls?  This one is the mother.  And this one is the little girl she adopted from China.”  “Uhh…what did you say??”  She repeated it to me and went on her merry way.  Mind you, I had been VERY careful not to let the kids see anything, hear anything about adoption.  I didn’t want them to get the wrong idea and think that we were going to do it.

So…I mentioned the incident to Todd when he came home from work.  He wasn’t as surprised by her comments as I was.  “Yeah, well that’s just because she’s seen you looking at all this adoption stuff.”  “No, actually.  She hasn’t seen a thing.”  Then the conversation got very interesting.  Todd began feeling defensive.  “Are you saying we should adopt??  Are you trying to pressure me into something?”

“No, I just…”   and then came the tears.  Lots of them.  I didn’t plan that, but they helped.  Todd’s demeanor softened immediately.  He hugged me and said, “I’m so sorry.  I didn’t know you felt so strongly about this.”  And then I blubbered, “I didn’t know either.”

To make a long story short, we made it a matter of prayer and here we are, 7 months into this process.  Every day I feel more confident in that decision.  There is absolutely no way we could have ever done this without knowing it’s the right thing for our family.

Moving along…

Wednesday, February 10th, 2010

Sent the application to USCIS yesterday.  And today I sent 10 documents (all except for the one we need from USCIS) to the NM Secretary of State.  Hopefully it will come back by Monday, and then they’ll be off to the L.A. Consulate for authentication!  I feel like things are finally moving again!  I suppose the ox can only be in the mire for so long.  :)

Home study APPROVED!

Monday, February 8th, 2010

I guess our fasting and prayers are working!  I got an email from CCAI this morning saying the home study is approved!  We’re submitting our application to USCIS tomorrow when we get the notarized copy of the home study.  Yea!  Now we’ll just pray that the USCIS comes back ultra fast.  :)

Care packages…and the never-ending home study

Sunday, February 7th, 2010

I was reading more online about adopting and was reminded to record our recent experiences and feelings.  Well, our Pre-Approval arrived in our email on December 22nd!  (I had been preparing a package to send since we sent our LOI.)  We sent that first package to Min Jiao on December 24th!  I wish I could have been there when she received it.  In almost every update we’ve read about Min Jiao, it says how much she wants a family, how much she wants to be adopted.  Receiving a package is the moment that a child finds out they’re being adopted.  I wish I could have seen her face!  We sent pictures of our family and home, some clothes, and a camera to take pictures with.  We also included a letter talking about each of us and how much we want her to be part of our family.  We told her that we would send a package each month until we came.  Of course, there is no way to know for sure that she received it, but it didn’t come back to us so we’re hopeful that she did.

We sent a second package a week ago, on January 29th.  We sent another letter; some Valentines candy, a Valentines puppy; and pictures of grandparents, extended family, and her room.  I think about her so much.  It seems like it will be FOREVER until she’s home, but I worry that it might seem even longer to her.  Time goes by SO SLOWLY when you’re a kid!

And now for the real kicker—we’re STILL working on the home study!!!   I was looking at the USCIS website back in December (because I was getting ready to submit our application) and found out that Taiwan DOES have a child abuse registry.  ARGHH!  Child abuse registries are supposed to be one of the very first things checked when you start the home study!!  Anyway, so we’re still waiting to finish up the home study.  6 months is a REALLY long time!